A letter to my future daughter… The Importance of A Good Home
My dearly beloved daughter,
I think about you almost every day. I say almost because every day would be an obsession. What if you turn out to be a boy? Or I end up having only boys as children. Ah! Let’s not think about it. I’m still sitting outside my house waiting for your father to pass by. Crying has become a mellifluous jingle only my heart can appreciate. But then again, I’m doing this for you… Or better still I’m bearing this burden for you so you won’t have to go through the pain I went through. Nothing would destroy my being other than not being able to give you a good home where love and peace abides. I’ve always been of the belief that a sound home largely defines what a woman will become. A good home can either make or break your confidence. A good home will either lead you in the hands of wrong men or set you high above your peers. A good home will determine your emotional stability. A good home will define what you will pass on to your children. A good home, my princess, can push you to greater heights and earn you a dignified name. They say wisdom begets royalty. I’d like to think of myself as a wise woman and you my little one, are a princess.
A good home can either make or break your self esteem and confidence. Growing up for me was quite challenging. I was very intelligent but I wasn’t all too confident about my looks and myself. So I became a very quiet child not because I didn’t have anything to say. I just didn’t want to say anything out of place and be laughed at. It had happened more than enough times… Even till today... I’m not the best talker or rather conversation keeper. I have a handful of friends I talk to and that’s because they for some odd reason understood that only time and patience could bring that playful side out of me. This is why I am a better writer than speaker. I spend most of time writing. Who knows? You might just be a writer as well… with a more twisted sense of humor than mine.
A good home can either lead you to or lead you away from corny men. I say this because if you have the firsthand example of true love in your home, you would know what to look out for. You would know who not to give audience to. (My problem is that I love too much and more also, it’s always the people that don’t deserve me that end up reaping where they didn’t sow. Leaving me empty with flat seeds of healing. ) More importantly, you will be able to smell fuckboys 300 kilometres away. It took me a very long time to get to this point. As a matter of fact, I’ve kissed enough frogs to cover your knowledge. All I’m saying is… I do not want to see you cry over more than 2 guys in your lifetime. I just don’t want you to get to a point where you see nothing good in men and believe they have absolutely nothing to offer except what’s between their legs. I just don’t want you to end up with my mindset. It’s a very dark place to be in.
A good home will define your emotional stability. I hope your father will be the one man to understands this basic concept. We will both have to build an emotional wall around you. We are not punishing o. There is day you will leave home and dwell as the only sheep in the midst of ravening wolves and I will not be there to protect you physically. The least I can teach you is to guard your emotions and your heart with all diligence because those are the keys to your future. When I say guard… I mean guard it the right way that is befitting of a virtuous woman. I’ve not really protected my heart and as such it’s marked with various footprints of anger. It’s not the best state of mind to be in, my love.
And finally… A good home will push you to greater heights and polish your good name. I already know I can be proud of you. In this life, you can only do better than your parents.
Meanwhile nothing would pain me more than you ending up becoming a daddy’s girl. Oh my dear… I’m presently experiencing pre-fertilization labour pains just for you. So I believe this should be one point extra for me in case you’re wondering why you should be a mommy’s girl.
May God bless and protect you, my angel. I love you already.
- The Alpha Female